Turn heads with your confidence

Turn heads with your confidence

I know, for many single people, the thought of Valentine’s Day can be a bit depressing. 

I’ve heard others comment how lonely they feel when Feb. 14 rolls around since they don’t have a significant other to share it with. Honestly, I can say that I’ve never had a boyfriend during Valentine’s Day. And no, I’m not ashamed of it. At this age, having a boyfriend is not a priority for me. My education and athletics are my priority.

It extends beyond just Valentine’s Day. I feel as though there’s a certain pressure while in college to meet the “love of your life” or just simply be in a relationship with someone. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been asked by friends or family if I have a boyfriend or not.

It’s as though people expect you to be pursuing a relationship as hard as you’re pursuing your degree. 

I’m here to tell you that it’s OK to invest your energy into school and activities in college. It’s what you’re here for.

At this age, it’s OK to be selfish with your time and pursue all the dreams you want. We are blessed to receive the opportunities we do at the college age. 

It’s OK to pursue these opportunities alone. It doesn’t mean you should be less confident in yourself. It doesn’t make you any less of a person.

So don’t dread or despise Valentine’s Day; instead, be happy for all the couples out there and keep focusing on yourself and your passions. You’ll be surprised how many heads you turn when you are confident in yourself and your actions.


Rachel Astleford is a nutrition and dietetics major and can be reached at [email protected].