Libby looks at the ups and downs of being conceited

Libby Hill

Libby Hill

Dear Libby,

I have this “friend” and “he” has a serious problem. Overall, “he” is an easy going guy, but lately “he” has been on edge. “He” has a lot of friends that are girls. This is good. But lately more than one of them have told him that they would like to be “more than friends.” This would be fine if they were “hot,” but they are not particularly “his type.” What should “he” do?–Conceited & Worried

Dear Conceited,

Buddy, you are not fooling anyone with that “he” crap, so I will not even dignify it with responding that way. (And if I’m wrong, and you really are writing this about a friend, my apologies ? but then it’s just weird to do.)

Anyway, you need to just suck it up and be a man. These girls like you and just wanted you to know that. You are not compelled to respond in any such matter, other than being a gentleman and not purposely making them feel stupid for telling you.

I can understand if they’ve made you feel slightly uncomfortable by telling you this, but you can’t be feeling any more awkward at this point than they are. Or perhaps I’m wrong. Perhaps they’ve all moved on with their lives and don’t find you as “hot” as they used to.

But all in all you need to just take this all in stride and look at it as a compliment that these girls would think so highly of you. Oh, and one last piece of advice: Rethink “your type.” Because if “hot” is all that defines “your type,” you may be in for a long, lonely road.

While not a trained couselor, Libby Hill loves to give advice. E-mail her at [email protected].