Female columnist discusses Herpes

Kara Lindquist

Kara Lindquist

Hello all! My name is Kara, and I’m so excited to be one of your new sexperts! I figured the only one you have can’t be a guy, right? After all, they need most of the help. Okay, sorry guys. That was a joke (kinda). Anyways, I’m here to help with all your romantic queries. I’m not a professor or a doctor, so you should understand what I’m talking about easily.

My goal is to answer as many questions, and help as many people as possible, without having to answer the same question a thousand times.

Where did I gain all this wisdom? Well, I really have to credit the guys I have dated – good or bad – and all of the girlfriends I’ve had to counsel, because some people just don’t seem to get the whole relationship thing. Of course, sometimes I don’t have all the answers. In that case, I will go out and find it for you! Please send me questions so I can do something with all of this sexpertly advice! Now don’t be shy, I know everyone has something to ask, and it’s confidential so, no worries!

Dear Kara,

I am a virgin. Can I still get herpes?

– Confused

Dear Confused,

YES yes yes! Did I say yes already? This is a very common question among young adults, and that is not a good sign! There are two forms of herpes, Simplex A and Simplex B. Simplex A are those nasty cold sores some people get around their mouths. That sore should be like a big warning sign that says “do not kiss me or drink out of my glass.” Just resist the urge until that thing is gone, which shouldn’t be too hard as it’s not the most attractive thing in the world.

Now, Simplex B is below the belt. Those sores you have to touch in order to transfer. Since I don’t know exactly what your virgin status entails, I can’t say it’s not possible. Do you have to have sex? No. Any fondling is very dangerous in this case. Also, this is very important, if your bed buddy has a cold sore don’t let him/her go down on you! It CAN be contracted both ways! Remember, herpes is NOT curable, so those five minutes will last a long time.

Be careful,


Send your questions to Kara or Matt at [email protected].