A big mistake we all make in life is thinking we have time. 

Time to do things with those we care about. Time to tell those we love that we care so much. The truth, however, is that you never know when you could run out of time. 

I had to realize this in the worst way possible. I lost my lifelong best friend in a car accident on Feb. 26. At 20 years old, someone who had been in my life since I was a baby, was gone.

I am heartbroken and overwhelmed with sadness, but most of all, I am filled with regret for not saying certain things I wish I had. I made the mistake, like many others, of thinking I would have forever to make more memories with her by my side. But I no longer have that time. 

With that being said, I want to challenge you all to use the time we have now and don’t take anything for granted.

I realize being in college can make it easy to justify that you are too busy to call or go home, but life is too short to live that way.  

I want you all to think about a few questions: when was the last time you called home to your parents, grandparents or friends? Do you put off spending time with those important to you because you are too busy? Have you told those you love recently that you love them? 

If you don’t like the way you answered those questions I hope you decide to reach out to those you care about and use the time you have today. Don’t let distance create gaps in your important relationships. 

Life is fragile. Just because someone is here today doesn’t guarantee they will be tomorrow, so don’t take it for granted. Say what needs to be said and even a little more. Show your love a little extra. Use the opportunity you have now to make memories. 

Don’t make the mistake of thinking you have time. 

Kelsey Bender is a human biology major at South Dakota State University and can be contacted at [email protected].