Sexologists inform students at bootcamp

By Kelsey Megard Reporter

Take care of your privates. This is some of the advice discussed on Monday night at the Sex Ed Boot Camp with sexologists, Dr. Joni Frater and Esther Lastique. 

With 635 students in attendance in the Volstorff Ballroom, the two experts shared their knowledge.

Over 300 media outlets have interviewed Frater and Lastique. They wrote a book on the importance of sex, “Love Her Right: The Married Man’s Guide to Lesbian Secrets for Great Sex!” Before going on college tours, Frater and Lastique hosted a radio show that discussed love and sex.

“I wanted to inform college students when a friend of mine, who read my book, said that he could have saved his marriage if he would have read it when he was younger. That’s when I realized that I had to start informing a younger generation,” Frater said.

The information covered all aspects of sexual health from domestic violence and sexual consent to HPV, condoms and masturbation.

Monday night’s presentation started with the importance of knowledge. Frater and Lastique spoke about how sex is not discussed in today’s academic setting or at home. They discussed the impractical ways in which people learn about sex, varying from porn to graphic novels.

The four pillars of a healthy relationship was another key point during the presentation. The pillars are honesty, respect, equality and responsibility. Lastique brought up the recent Ray Rice controversy and noted that he did not maintain any of the four pillars.

Loving ourselves and knowing the recipe for pleasure was also discussed. The recipe for pleasure consists of knowing yourself, loving yourself, being true to yourself, and being open to pleasure. Masturbation was a topic that got the crowd chatting. They discussed the need to explore your own body to find out what gives you the most pleasure.

“They were sassy and hilarious. They presented information that is usually awkward to talk about in a very comfortable way,” said Haley Jerman, a junior biology major and HEROH member.

Frater and Lastique covered many different aspects of abuse throughout the boot camp. Sexual abuse is prevalent on many college campuses. One in four women in the United States reports experiencing violence and 86 percent of rapes are by someone the victim knows. They informed students that if you are not sober you do not have the legal capacity to consent to sex.

The pre-sex talk, outercourse, intercourse and aftercourse made up the rules of engagement. Frater and Lastique discussed the importance of having a sober conversation before engaging in sexual activity. The conversation should consist of questions such as: Do you have an STI? How many people have you slept with? Is this a one-time thing? What happens if someone gets pregnant?

The Wellness Center recently launched a campaign to decrease HPV. The campaign is called “Spread Knowledge, Not HPV” which is intended to help college students learn about cancer risks associated with HPV, how HPV can be prevented and information about the vaccine.

 The Wellness Center was able to fund both the HPV campaign and the Sex Ed Boot Camp program through a South Dakota Comprehensive Cancer Control Grant. The goal is to educate students to make safe decisions regarding all aspects of sexual health.

“No one wants to sit and talk about STIs with your roommate. They really initiate having a pre-sex talk, because if you can’t talk about it, why are you having sex? I want to empower students to make healthy sexual decisions,” said Mariah Weber, the Wellness Center coordinator.

The HEROH Sexual Health Committee promoted the event the week before by handing out condoms in the union with event information sheets attached.