Edward Kearns

Dear Edward,

I think my girlfriend is cheating on me. She has a new guy friend who is always calling her, and a few times she has been out with him when I tried making plans with her. What should I do about it?

~Jealous Boyfriend

Dear Jealous,

It seems as though your wolf-like instincts have taken over. There is a new male in your territory and he is sniffing around your mate. Right now you’re probably thinking you have to fight him off and protect what is yours.

Well, Jealous, it’s a good thing people are not animals. We have the ability to talk about our concerns with our mates. I know talking about how we feel isn’t something men really want to do, but trust me, it works.

The truth is, it isn’t very likely that your girlfriend is cheating on you. In my experience, a cheating lover will usually try and hide the fact that they are socializing with another man. Your girlfriend seems to be doing the opposite.

You may want to let her know how the situation is making you feel, but be careful of how you say things. Focus the conversation on your feelings, not what you think she may be doing. If you accuse her of running around on you, the conversation will end quickly and badly.

You can also try keeping an open mind about her new friend. Instead of seeing him as an enemy, try seeing him as a potential friend. It is possible that they would love to include you in their activities.

To make a long story short, reach out to your girlfriend. By talking to your girlfriend, not only will you feel better, but you may just come out of it with a much stronger relationship.