Loneliness is avoidable


Dear Heather,

It’s already past midterms and I still haven’t made any friends. I spend every night in my room and I go home on the weekends. I don’t have a roommate so I am always in my room alone. I never talk to anyone in my classes.

At first I thought this was normal, but I am getting pretty depressed now. I am really shy, so it’s hard for me to go just talk to people. I am getting so lonely that I am considering moving home and going to a community college. I don’t want to do that because I really enjoy my classes here. Please help me.

~All Alone.

Dear Alone,

Being at college for the first time and making friends is hard and it can really put a person down. But there are plenty of things you can do to that will give you the opportunity to make friends. However, that means you need to overcome your shyness. It may be hard, but think of what can happen once you do. You need to try and give it some effort.

One of the great things about SDSU is that there are plenty of things to do for everyone. There are tons of events going on almost every night. You should find one that interests you and then ask someone on your floor to come along. Or there may be a group of people planning to attend the event. Just ask them if you can go along. You should talk to your Resident Assistant. He or she may be planning to take a group of people to the event.

Another thing you can do is join a club or organization. There are tons of them on campus that may fit an interest you have. These groups are usually inviting and love having new members. This is a good way to meet people who like the same things as you do.

Your RA has probably told you to keep your door open, and you should. This is a great way to meet the other people living on your floor. You are never going to meet anybody if your door is closed. You should also walk around on your floor and stop in and say “hi” to people who have their doors open. You could invite them to watch a movie or play a game in your room. You may find someone else like you. It’s going to be hard at first and you are bound to have rejections, but that is part of life. Don’t get discouraged. Just keep working at it. You’ll meet people.

#1.884584:3649476605.jpg:heathermug.jpg:Heather Mangan, Columnist: