Kristin Marthaler

Dear Kristin,

The other night my girlfriend and I were getting intimate. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex. When we were done and she rolled over, I happened to notice something that wasn’t supposed to be there.

She had blisters down there, and red bumps. It didn’t look good at all. I didn’t know what to think so I quickly got dressed and told her I had to leave, and that I had forgotten to do something. If it’s some type of venereal disease (VD) that means she cheated on me. How can I confront her on something like this? Why wouldn’t she tell me especially if she has a VD, she’s spreading it. What am I supposed to do now?

~Royally scared

Dear Royally Scared,

First off, even if you don’t want to confront your girlfriend, go get tested for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) ASAP. There are some clinics around this area that will do that, and they are very confidential. Once you get the test results, then you can confront her and tell her she gave something to you and you want to know how she got it.

Secondly, you could just go up to her and tell her you want to talk about something. Don’t accuse her right off the bat because that will cause her to shut down and not want to talk about it. Just say you saw something when she rolled over the other night and you are wondering what it is. More than likely she will be able to talk it out with you and you both can resolve it from there.

Lastly, try not to jump to conclusions so quickly. Make sure what you saw was what you saw. Sometimes when a woman shaves her private areas, the skin can become red and bumpy from ingrown hair. Make sure she wasn’t trying to please you by shaving down there. It would be very bad if that were the case, and you accused her of cheating.

So you have three options here: get tested yourself and confront her; sit her down and talk to her; or re-examine what was seen.

When you do have a VD it is very important to not spread it anymore. If you are really in love with someone and want to sleep with them anyways, please go see a doctor to see what can be done to protect yourselves from catching anything or spreading anything further. One in four students on campus has an STD right now, and one in three has oral herpes.

Make sure to keep a level head in all this. Sleeping with someone else to get back at her will only make things worse. Just follow the advice and things will work out. I promise.

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